I once served both as a military officer and as single parent of a wonderful little girl. Not only was I trying to figure out how best to rear a little girl, but I was also trying to develop skills in a demanding profession. Spending 30-60 minutes at the park play sets involved the components of a major military exercise. I had to evaluate the location, my work schedule, weather conditions, and drive time, just to find the right spot to spend quality time. Heading to the park involved loading pull-ups, spare clothes, blankets, water, snacks, toys, games, hats, chairs, books, and a first aid kit. To top it all off, my first trip to the park solicited a mother’s comment to me, “Oh, it is sooo cute that you let your daughter pick out her own clothes!” To which I replied, “No. I didn’t.” which was answered with a collective, “ohhhhh dear” from all the moms. This incident led to a near daily anxiety about how I was screwing up my daughter’s entire life because I could not match clothes properly.
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